Showing posts with label sanity. Show all posts
Showing posts with label sanity. Show all posts

Saturday, January 29, 2011

When friends are faster than therapy




Purple Dragonfly by Susan Kubes








BFF: Are you awake?

Me: What are *you* doing up so late?

BFF: Are you okay?

Me: Yeah... why?

BFF: Well, I just read that and you're so angry. You usually don't get so angry.

Me: It made me really angry.

BFF: No, I mean... It's not like they haven't done worse things. Are you okay?

Me: Yeah.

BFF: So what got you so angry?

Me: The fecking proposed legislation that tries to make women not able to have control over their bodies?! I mean, it is what it is.

BFF: Oh, so it's the not having control over your body thing. That sucks. I totally feel for you.




© Bright Nepenthe, 2011



Friday, January 14, 2011

In my next incarnation...





My child won't study reincarnation for one month in his Honors World History class.

There's a lot of great history in India. There are the Persian and Greek Conquests. There's the Maurya Empire. There's the Gupta Empire. There's the Mughal Empire. There's the British Empire. There's Partition. There's Mahatma Gandhi, Jawaharal Nehru, Indira (no relation) Gandhi, Rajiv (son of Indira) Gandhi, Janata Dal and more. Or what about Jinnah, the Khans, the Bhuttos? There's the current situation in Pakistan, which used to be part of India, and the tenuous situation in Kashmir, which is a sore point between the two. India is the most populous democracy in the world. Pakisitan is crucial to the security of Central Asia. They both have nuclear weapons.

Unfortunately, my son, who is in a ritzy private prep school since public schools in Miami are downright scary with all the violence and the abysmal test scores, learned none of those things about India and Pakistan in this class. He learned about reincarnation theory as if it was practically the sum total of Hinduism. For one month, his teacher had the students in his Honors class read articles that claimed that science was basically wrongheaded and that reincarnation could be proven. That would be articles with text like this:

"Science, developed on perceivable evidence-driven reasoning and logic, advocated that the attainment of truth is possible only with the help of material based scientific investigations and developments. Spirituality recognizes that the means of attainment of this truth lies within in the form of immortal soul, which is the Conscious Self. In other words spirituality is the science of consciousness, involving mind, body and spirit relationship. A subject of divine faith and devotion, initially, it leads to realization of ultimate unity of all beings. 
  
If the true meaning of science is understood – as search of truth beyond any barriers of matter and visible world, there would be no difficulty in accepting the fact that spirituality also falls in its periphery which pertains to sublime domains of realizations.... This attitude widens the scope of knowledge and search of ultimate truth through perfect integration of modern sciences and the ancient science of spirituality and religion."

~ Scientific Spirituality, at   All World Gayatri Pariwar

They spent more than a few of their 45 minutes of class times watching videos like this one,


and its second part, as if they were documentaries, depicting provable fact.

And then there were the tests, wherein my child, who arrived to me at age 8 stating that not only was there no Santa Claus, no Tooth Fairy, no Easter Bunny ("It's just parents with money!") but also no God, was asked to answer questions about what level his soul had attained in the Samsara (reincarnation) spiritual cycle. And when he chose a level of consciousness that had no soul, he was sent back to his desk and told he was wrong and to rewrite his answer.

Between the business of telling people they are wrong about their personal self-spiritual beliefs, and the business of not teaching World History, because of teaching a very slanted view of World Culture in its place, we were, to say the least, deeply troubled.

Did you learn about Buddhism and Jainism, I asked? Only as they related to reincarnation. What about Parsees, Muslims, Sikhs? "What? Who?" he responded, as if incredulous. My child, who was attending this relatively liberal Episcopal school, did not even know there were Christians in India, people! He knew that Jainists and Buddhist also believe in reincarnation, though.

In 6th grade my child won an award (only student in 6th grade to receive it) for achievement in World Cultures. He likes history and frankly, learned far more history in that class as an 11 year old than this one as a 14 year old. He loves YA fantasy books that are embroidered around history. Books like The Book Thief,  Temeraire and Bartimaeus and Jonathan Strange and Mr. Norrell. He wanted to do well and really, even though it's not übercool to say so, he enjoys learning immensely.

We complained to the Chair of the History department at his school. After two weeks, or so he said, the gentleman finally talked to the teacher, who mysteriously had taken down her entire semester's assignments from Edline. She said that she had only taught reincarnation theory for 2-3 days. Meanwhile, my son's advisor told her advisory class that "Students don't know what they should be learning in a class. The teacher knows and students should leave curriculum decisions to the teacher."

Well, last time I checked, History was History, Religion was Religion, Culture was Culture and while there might be some intermingling in there, a month on reincarnation theory (which, I've been told the yoga-practicing teacher fervently believes in...) is not Indian History. The word proselytizing sure comes to mind instead, though.

We requested that he be switched to the other Honors World History teacher's class and the request was honored with minimal fuss, but we were also told next time to just complain to the teacher and not make such a ruckus by bothering department chairs and upper school principals and the like. Between this, and a few other charming little details like not giving students full credit for AP classes (Johnny's A in CPR class counts for more than my son's B in AP Physics or Calculus would) we are now in the process of switching my child to a whole different school for next year.

I'm hoping that, eventually, my honor student will learn more Indian and Pakistani history... For the present, any child in the 9th grade that had world history in a different class has no doubt learned a bit more than my son on the topic. But my child has learned that believing in Karma evidently doesn't keep you from being untruthful when you have to cover your ass.


© Bright Nepenthe, 2011

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

TSA and Reason, Pt. 1


They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety, deserve neither liberty nor safety. 






Back around the time my world was getting sloshed around, there was this quiet little announcement on the TSA website. It was evidently really an opening salvo presaging a new stage in the battle between security (or so they call it) and personal privacy (what some might say that Franklin intended with his term 'liberty'). 
October 28, 2010
"TSA is in the process of implementing new pat-down procedures at checkpoints nationwide as one of our many layers of security to keep the traveling public safe. Pat-downs are one important tool to help TSA detect hidden and dangerous items such as explosives. Passengers should continue to expect an unpredictable mix of security layers that include explosives trace detection, advanced imaging technology, canine teams, among others."


In recent weeks there have been myriad concerns voiced by doctors, pilots unions, flight attendants unions and regular citizens about not just body scanners, which some say pose risks for frequent travelers and TSA employees themselves (due to substantially more ionizing radiation than originally stated) but also just merely invasion of privacy. After all, if you don't go for the groping pat down, we now know that in contrast to their stated policy that there is evidence the federal government does indeed save the images they capture from the body scanners. As a result, the ACLU issued a petition calling for respect of privacy. You can see it here. Anyway, I posted it on my personal Facebook page:


And I got an eyeful from a FB friend:




FB Friend:

IMO, if you don't want to be searched don't fly, simple easy.
17 November at 18:59 · 

Marzie:

And just so practical for people whose jobs require travel....
17 November at 20:42 ·

FB Friend:

Take the bus, drive, get a train. Or how bout not have a job that "requires" travel if one has such a problem with airport security to begin with. No one forces people to get on planes. Entitlement and privacy are not the same, IMO. If your on that plane solo, do as you please but your not so...
17 November at 22:36 · 

Marzie: 

"Or how bout not have a job that "requires" travel if one has such a problem with airport security to begin with." Can you really believe that? I think it is very naive in the present economic climate to suggest that someone just get a diferent job, XXXXX, I'm sorry. I'm thrilled for you if you have that kind of marketability yourself, but certainly many people do not.

The erosion of privacy and civil rights in this country is a worrisome trend. It is not clear that these losses have any correlation with greater safety of our citizenry at all. History shows that escalating restrictions on the liberties of a country's citizens are, in fact, often correlated with shifts toward totalitarian regimes.
18 November at 07:23 ·  Liked: 2 people

FB Friend:

You may perceive it as naive, I see it as living in the real world, and not expecting to be treated with kid gloves and a spoiled baby all time. The fact remains time have changed and we no longer live in a world where everything is sunny & and roses. The fact remains that people want harm the citizens of this country by bringing bombs & whatever onto planes. The fact remains it is Not civil liberty to fly but a luxury...


18 November at 07:44 ·


Marzie: 


I think we shall have to agree to disagree on the point.
18 November at 12:33 · 


Several other friends took up a spirited argument with my FB friend, including sharing their thoughts that the TSA has a lot more to do with expensive government contracts than actual security. But no minds were changed on either side. Two weeks later and I'm still shaking my head. Find another job? Really?

I've read so much about the TSA body scanner and pat down situation in the past two weeks that it makes my head spin. I've read about Thomas Sawyer, the cancer survivor on a urostomy bag, whose bag was ruptured during the clearly misnamed "pat-down" search, covering him with urine. Or how about Cathy Bossi, breast cancer survivor, who was told to remove her prosthetic breast from her bra during what she describes as a humiliating and aggressive pat-down because she didn't want to be exposed to any more radiation after her breast cancer treatments. I feel so very much safer knowing that Mr. Sawyer's urine isn't flammable and that Ms. Bossi's breast is not C4. Not.

And what about all those rules for liquids in your carry-ons? Can it really be safer to have a whole bunch of 3-oz bottles of liquid versus a single 12 oz bottle? Really? Wow, I'm thinking they are really hoping terrorists are very stupid people who cannot mix chemicals. And btw, there are a great many solid, low volatility options out there. I think that athletic shoe guy Richard Reid was using a form of plastique that wasn't detected. But I won't get into info about explosives because I don't want to have my name put on some watch list and be strip searched and have a gynecological exam at the airport the next time I fly to NYC to see Cynical Nymph or something.

When the TSA was trying out their fancy-dancy body scanners earlier this year, Adam Savage of Mythbusters had his own charming experience with the efficiency of the TSA methodology to detect potential weapons. 



You know when I felt safe flying? When I flew El Al to Israel. And you know what? Israeli security experts agree with me. They don't touch people. They don't need to break your ostomy bags or see your prostheses or figure out if you can get that metal implant out of your hip during the flight to use it as a weapon. Unfortunately, they are profiling and sometimes their profiling is utterly ridiculous. Here in Miami, we remember when Donna Shalala, president of the University of Miami and former Secretary of Health and Human Services under Clinton, was detained and interrogated by the Israelis for 2.5 hours, evidently on the basis of her last name. Essentially the Israelis are preserving the safety of the many by discomfiting, sometimes a great deal, the few. And the few are often Arab in heritage.


I don't know what will make us more secure when we fly but I do know that I no longer want to fly. It has become so massively unpleasant an experience that I really dread it. I'm steeling myself for going to the UK in the summer. I'm thinking about driving my child to North Carolina for his summer program at Duke. I feel genuinely sorry for anyone who has to fly. I don't think, like my friend on Facebook, that it's a luxury.

But privacy and lack of humiliation evidently were.



© Bright Nepenthe, 2010

Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Why Aratina Cage is The Best





Better than chocolate:






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Thank you Aratina, for having restored sanity to this little corner of the blogosphere. I think I'm not alone in being grateful...






© Bright Nepenthe, 2010